On Birthdays

12/03/2014


This week is bittersweet. December marks six months in San Francisco for us, and it's Ian's 29th birthday on Wednesday. We have dinner plans at Tosca and are having a much-belated house warming + birthday party at our apartment Saturday night. 

But with all of those good things, there's an underlying sadness. On Sunday, my maternal grandmother passed away, under a year after she was diagnosed with colon cancer. She drifted away in her sleep without any pain which is exactly what my grandfather, her husband of 60+ years wanted. She was the type of grandmother everyone should have: sweet, funny, graceful, generous, and genuinely interested in the lives of others. Just this past weekend I was telling Ian's family about the stories she used to tell me to put me to sleep during summers spent in my grandparents' home in Michigan. She and my grandfather held hands whenever they could and dressed up Black Tie for New Year's Eve dinners at home every year. 

As much as I wanted to curl up under the covers this week and not face the world, I decided that to celebrate my grandma's life, my husband's birthday, and being healthy and happy was a better idea. 

So happy birthday, Ian. I'm lucky to have married someone that I can describe with the same adjectives as my late grandmother: sweet, funny, generous, and genuine. I hope we're dressing up and slow dancing in our living room when we're in our 80s.

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7 comments:

Jillian said...

im so sorry for your loss kirby -- but im glad you are choosing to celebrate life and your husbands birthday! xoox

17 Perth said...

Oh I am so so sorry for your loss! She sounds like an amazing woman. Happy birthday to your husband!

Monica G. M said...

i'm sorry for your loss. losing the companionship of a loved one is of course difficult and sad. but the best thing it does is remind us to appreciate every moment, and love as much as we can.

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Stephanie said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love to you and your family. And great birthday wishes to Ian. :)

Leslie said...

I am so sorry to hear about your grandma's passing. May you and your family find solace in your memories and be comforted by the fact that she embraced life to its fullest.

susan said...

Grandma was so special. She will be in our hearts forever.

Melissa Blake said...

Hugs...i'm so sorry about your grandmother...thinking of you and your family.