No More Comparisons

2/23/2012


Did everyone read Joanna's heartfelt post earlier this week? I know it struck a chord with Alexa, who's a new mom like Joanna, but it resonated with me, too, albeit for a different reason.

In her post, Joanna wrote about the misconception that other bloggers "have it all" and how it made her feel inadequate. Alexa and I feel like this all the time! Although we often wish blogging was our full-time job, it's not, so we can't help but feel envious when we see bloggers jet-setting to fashion week or taking glamorous outfit posts (while Alexa is entertaining her one-year-old and I am trying to get out the door for my one-hour commute and ten-plus-hour workday).

I am always inspired by Joanna (Cup of Jo was one of the first blogs I started reading), but this post really made me admire her more. Alexa and I wish we could devote more time to our blog, and sometimes feel like with all of the amazing blogs out there we don't measure up, but then we read posts like Joanna's and sweet comments from you readers and keep on writing and posting.


19 comments:

Ana Degenaar said...

Loving those posts.

Lauren {Stylized Existence} said...

Amen, Sister(s)! I think you guys are fabulous - I work full-time also and worry I don't measure up, but as Joanna so thoughtfully communicated, EVERYONE has those thoughts, even the big-name bloggers.

Nomadic D. said...

I'm totally with you guys on this. Joanna's post was so honest and totally moving, and though I can't relate to the weaning depression, I can relate to the general feeling, and I know how hard it is. Also, like you guys, it's hard not to get caught up in the comparison game, especially come fashion weeks when we see all these bloggers jetsetting around and wearing pieces straight off the runway. But everyone has their place, and we all have something to say, something personal and specific to contribute, as long as we're honest and true to ourselves. And I think that's why people come back to us, something we say or show or do, resonates honestly in some way. And that is enough to make me happy.

http://nomadic-d.blogspot.com/

Cafe Fashionista said...

What a fabulous quote, and post, Kirby. A Cup of Jo was one of the first blogs I stumbled upon years ago, as well. :)

Brandi {not your average ordinary} said...

I really love how so many bloggers this week are talking about this topic, even if it's not entirely planned (when I wrote my post about it, I had no idea others would be posting about the same). Blogging can be difficult sometimes -- for me, it's all about remembering why I do it, and that's for the connections I've made and continue to make.

Leslie said...

I love a Cup of Jo too, and also that post. I think the truth is that you really can't compare your life to anyone else's. We are all so wonderfully different.

jeanette from everton terrace said...

Fantastic quote, just perfect. How boring if we were all the same. I like reading all different kinds of blogs. I enjoy seeing the posts by people who get to jet set to fashion week, it's like an insider view for me but I also love the "here's my failed attempt at this recipe" posts.

{The Perfect Palette} said...

One of my favorite quotes! EVER!

christine, just bella said...

I haven't read joanna's post yet (though a friend told me about it and I'm heading there next). But you're right, the online world can be a tricky thing for that reason. Laundry, dirty dishes, and the like aren't really "blog worthy" so I think sometimes a false front is presented and it's hard not to compare. I love the quote, something to remember for sure :)

One Stylish Day at a Time said...

I couldn't agree more. While we bloggers try to keep things light and fun so our readers have a digital place to relax and be happy, we are all still human. This post inspired me to be more so on my own blog!

sherri lynn said...

This quote is such a good reminder! I loved Joanna's post on Monday. It's refreshing to see a vulnerable, honest post from a big-time blogger!

marissa at the boot said...

a great reminder and you two are so amazing for working the "juggle" so well!

Kristina Gulino said...

Wow, I absolutely needed to hear this. I've always heard that you shouldn't look to others, because others look to you - but how difficult it is! I admit to feeling intimidated here and there, seeing other sites pick up new partnerships and, yes, jet-set to fantastic conferences in NYC - but I have to remember to take it all in stride. Just because we have full-timers now (alongside the blogs), it may not be forever! :D Off to dig in to Joanna's post! (LOVE her site...talented lady).

Thanks Kirby,

Kristina
Nook & Sea

Lindsay @ Delighted Momma said...

What a wonderfully written honest post. I did read Joanna's post and I could totally relate. I dealt with post postpartum depression right after my son was born and it was one of the toughest things I have ever had to deal with. I love when other bloggers are real and don't just show one side of them. Great post!!

Nicole said...

Thanks for posting the link to Jo's article, Kirby...a definite favorite to bookmark. As is your and Lex's blog! You two are doing amazing -- it's the thing I look forward to during my lunch break everyday (between finishing teaching and picking up K at daycare!) xo

Brynn {chartreuse and a twist} said...

Oh, I have definitely felt like that before... many, many times before. I often look at others who do get to blog full time and so wish i could do the same...I dream about how much more I could do with my blog...but right now, that is just not my reality...so i will do the best i can with what I have got! So glad you shared this :) XO brynn

Gameday Stylist said...

Agreed - it's very hard to balance it all and stay positive!

p.s. love Joanna!

- Sara @ Gameday Stylist

Amanda said...

I read Joanna's post and really appreciated her honesty! It resonated with me because I have struggled with the same feelings of doubt, jealousy, and insecurity, a lot of which stem from comparing myself to others.

I'm so glad Joanna was brave enough to share her story. I think we bloggers are good at sharing the "ups" in our lives (and it's important to be positive) but we sometimes hesitate to share the "downs." It's comforting to know that although someone may seem to have it all, we are not alone in our struggles.

Kimberley - Dream. Delight. Inspire. said...

Wonderful post (as was Joanna's)! It is certainly hard to stop that little voice in your head telling you that you're not good enough, successful enough, working hard enough.

As bloggers we tend to share the highlights and keep the low points to ourselves. I'm so glad that honesty is applauded in the blogosphere, it makes me feel that women can be more themselves and be proud of that authenticity.